My biggest take-away from healing my own fierce independence is the understanding that without allowing myself to be witnessed, held and supported in my vulnerability, I simply cannot ‘shine’. I cannot lead authentically. I cannot grow through healing, learning and unlearning.
Fierce independence comes from the belief that we have to have all the answers, be perfect and keep things together at all times. It is rooted in old outdated and unhelpful models for life and leadership.
Fierce independence stunts our evolutionary purpose, and our sense of aliveness immeasurably.
It’s only when we become intentional about allowing ourselves to be held & supported that we simultaneously become intentional about our self-leadership.
And as we do, we cannot help but become intentional about living and dying with our open hearts, no songs left unsung, no truths left buried deep inside.
I believe that in these bewildering and fast changing times, we need each other more than ever, if we want to show up real, wholeheartedly, and make a difference.
That’s why, since 2017, I have been gathering changemakers together in community who are serious about practicing the art of showing up fully. We can only lead ourselves through life and work with integrity when we allow ourselves to be supported.
A conscious – or regenerative – leader makes sure that they are a part of an ecosystem of relationships that have the capacity to hold them, support them, and guide them as they navigate life and work whatever the weather.
Choosing this for ourselves in anchored in the deep knowing that without each other, we will not last a long time and not serve the whole in the most caring and energy efficient way. Choosing this for ourselves is rooted in a love that encompasses all, including ourselves.
As you receive these words, you are invited to take a breath and a moment to feel into:
To what extent do you allow yourself to be held and supported by others?
Do the community/communities that you belong to (if any) align with your values?
How could you strengthen your self-leadership and leadership at work through closer collaboration and emotional intimacy?